EMDR Therapy and Counseling for Adults, Adolescents,
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& Couples in San Diego
Usually the start of a new year is met with hope, inspiration, and motivation. People see it as a way to begin fresh and set resolutions to change what isn't working in their lives. However, many times by the time February roles around, those New Year Resolutions are long forgotten. Could this be you? Quite a few years ago it used to be me I can tell you for sure! Not anymore though and here's why...
I realized instead of taking something away or trying to 'give up' a bad habit, adding something positive fared much better and produced significant results. I didn't add a new diet or work out routine or new rules. I only added on thing and that was a word of intention. In December, I would start reflecting on the past year and what worked and what did not work and anything I'd like to see different in the coming year. By thinking about these things, a word would usually show up and keep showing up that signified what these intentions could be. For example...
One year I chose breathe. Something significant happened that year and I regularly forgot to breathe and found myself holding my breath, so by intentionally choosing this word I began to concentrate on my breath. Over the course of the year I learned to use deep breathing as a tool to help calm my nerves and anxiety.
Another year I chose simplify. I had so much clutter in my brain trying to run two businesses and other busy life responsibilities that I needed to slow down and become more organized. That idea was overwhelming but asking myself "how can I simplify this moment?" when I felt chaotic helped me slowly simplify my life throughout that year.
So for this year my word is attend. It's not the prettiest word but it reminds me to tend to all the personal things I've pushed aside. This is going to be a powerful year! I invite you to think of one word that is meaningful to you and see if using this word over the course of one year can make a significant change for you. It can be an amazing move as I have realized the power of intention one word at a time!
Deborah is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist who is passionate about helping people discover their true, authentic self.